Before My Mind Has The Words,
Sometimes My Body Has Already Started the Conversation

Before My Mind Has the Words, Sometimes My Body Has Already Started the Conversation | SoPHIT4You Wellness

Identifying Anxiety in the Body

Before My Mind Has the Words, Sometimes My Body Has Already Started the Conversation

By Sophia | SoPHIT4You Wellness

Have you ever walked into a meeting and suddenly noticed your shoulders creeping toward your ears?

Have you received an email that left your stomach feeling uneasy before you even figured out why the message bothered you?

Have you found yourself forgetting simple things, jumping from one thought to another, developing a headache, or feeling unusually scattered during a stressful season?

Or maybe you’ve returned to a familiar place and felt your body become tense—even though the experience connected to that place happened years ago.

Sometimes we recognize anxiety because of what we’re thinking. Other times, our bodies begin the conversation first.

We often identify anxiety with worry, but anxiety can also have a physical presence.

Physical symptoms that can accompany generalized anxiety disorder

Difficulty concentrating Fatigue Sleep problems Muscle tension Headaches Stomachaches Lightheadedness Shortness of breath Sweating Trembling Feeling “on edge”

Source: National Institute of Mental Health

That doesn’t mean every headache or upset stomach is anxiety. Physical symptoms deserve appropriate medical attention, particularly when they are new, severe, persistent or unexplained.

But understanding the mind-body connection gives us another opportunity to become curious about what we’re experiencing.

Maybe your shoulders tense.

Maybe your breathing changes.

Maybe your stomach becomes unsettled.

Maybe you become restless.

Maybe your thoughts begin moving faster.

The invitation isn’t to diagnose yourself every time something feels different. It’s to notice:

What does anxiety feel like in your body?

You Know Those Questionnaires at the Doctor’s Office

You’ve probably completed one.

“Over the last two weeks, how often have you…”

Had trouble relaxing?

Felt nervous or on edge?

Had little interest in doing things?

These questionnaires can feel routine, but standardized screening tools give healthcare providers information about patterns in our mental health. Common tools include:

GAD-7

Screens for anxiety symptoms.

PHQ-9

Screens for depressive symptoms.

A screening questionnaire isn’t necessarily a diagnosis. Think of it as information. And information becomes even more useful when we begin noticing patterns ourselves.

Instead of only asking, “Am I anxious?” consider asking:

When does this happen?

Is it worse in the morning?

Before a particular meeting?

Around a major anniversary?

During hormonal changes?

Learn What Calm Feels Like Before You Need It

We talk a lot about recognizing anxiety. I want to suggest something slightly different:

Learn your calm, too.

What does your body feel like when you feel safe?

Where do your shoulders sit?

How does your stomach feel?

How deeply are you breathing?

How do you sleep?

What does your inner dialogue sound like?

This becomes your baseline. Not a perfect state you should maintain all day. Just information.

Then, when something begins shifting, you may recognize it earlier.

Create a Calm You Can Recognize

Your environment can help you learn what settling feels like. Maybe your calm space includes softer lighting. A particular chair. Music. A yoga mat. Scheduled time with yourself.

The point is to intentionally experience moments when your nervous system isn’t being asked to respond to the next notification, conversation or responsibility.

Over time, noticing calm may make it easier to recognize when that calm has been disrupted.

When it feels bigger than the tools you have

If what you’re experiencing is persistent, overwhelming, interfering with daily life, or simply feels bigger than the tools you have available, reach for professional support. A therapist, physician or other qualified mental-health professional can help you understand what you’re experiencing and determine what support is appropriate.

For Black women and girls seeking culturally responsive mental-health support, Therapy for Black Girls offers educational resources and a therapist directory.

September’s Invitation

September’s invitation isn’t to eliminate every anxious feeling.

It’s to become familiar enough with yourself that you can recognize when something has shifted—and compassionate enough to respond before criticism takes over.

Until next time

September Blessing

May you pause with intention.

May you listen to your body with curiosity.

May you recognize its whispers before it has to shout.

May you become curious before becoming critical.

May you witness yourself with care.

With warmth,

Sophia

Founder | SoPHIT Wellness

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